The Accident

By clicking on the title, you will be able to see the accident my first car was in. This is why I NEVER use my cell phone when I'm driving. I was turning into the parking lot of my apartment complex, and some idiot was too busy looking at his cell phone and drove right into me. I bought this car in August and the accident occured in October. I was in a state of shock for almost an hour afterwards. I'm so grateful that Jeff was there because he was able to calm me down. This has been the only accident I was ever in, so I think it was that much more shocking for me.

Please tell me about all the idiot drivers that drove their cars into you!

Here are a few of my favorite... movies!

I don't really want to try and decide which of these are my VERY favorite movies, so I'm just putting them as they come to my head. I know, I know, as a librarian I should at least put them in alphabetical order, but I don't wanna. Before you say anything about all the links, don't click on them. Especially you Jenny since you just made fun of my blog you mean sister poopy butt.

Labrynith
Hero
Kung Fu Hustle
Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon
Batman
LA Story
Being John Malkovich
Auntie Mame
O Brother Where Art Thou?
Dangerous Liaisons
Ravenous
Evil Dead 2
Little Women
Music Man
Run Lola Run
A Little Princess
Young Frankenstein
Kill Bill 2
Brazil
Adventures of Baron Munchausen
Fog of War
Secret of Roan Inish
Whale Rider
Amelie
City of Lost Children
Breaking the Waves
Pillow Book

Okay, so I put a link to all of these movies. So freaking what! As you can see from my above statement, my sister made fun of me and made me read a stupid website that made fun of blogs. I DON'T CARE! Plus I'm too tired to continue listing more movies anyway.

Adrienne, if you're out there I still promise to show you what happened to my car after some jerk on his cell phone drove into me.

I'm going on a "diet"

I am so so so sick of all these "diet" books that make you take out all carbs or all sugar or eat nothing but protein. Blegh. After a long conversation with some of my co-workers, I decided that I am going to follow the food pyramid, which was changed this year. It's set up completely different, with all of the sections showing vertically instead of horizontally and exercise is included on the pyramid. I think that if you look on the website, the section for exercise is the biggest part of the pyramid, and this is the part that most people are missing, including me. You can diet as much as you want, and unless you balance it out with exercise, you aren't going to do yourself much good. If you cut out too many calories, your body will go into starvation mode and conserve all the calories you do take in. I think the FDA is basically trying to tell us that everything is about BALANCE!!! Therefor, I am going to follow the guidelines for the food pyramid and DDR every night for 30 minutes. Hopefully, I'll be healthy in no time. Really though, all I want is to be able to keep up with my kid(s). I don't want them to be embarrassed of me. Maybe someday I'll even be a MILF. If you don't know what that means, I'm not going to tell you because its not nice to say.

Anyway, beginning yesterday, according to MyPyramid.gov - United States Department of Agriculture, I should follow this (plus around 30 - 60 minutes of exercise each day).

Your results are based on a 2000 calorie pattern*.

6 ounces 2.5 cups 2 cups 3 cups 5.5 ounces 1 Make Half Your Grains Whole Aim for at least 3 whole grains a day 2 Vary Your Veggies Aim for this much every week: Dark Green Vegetables = 3 cups weekly Orange Vegetables = 2 cups weekly Dry Beans & Peas = 3 cups weekly Starchy Vegetables = 3 cups weekly Other Vegetables = 6 1/2 cups weekly Oils & Discretionary Calories Aim for 6 teaspoons of oils a day Limit your extras (extra fats & sugars) to 265 Calories

I always appreciate encouragement, because while I think that this shouldn't be TOO had to follow, I still think I'm going to need to watch myself to make sure I don't go too crazy.

Avert your eyes children!

I occassionally read this librarian's blog and she had taken a test to see what tarot card she was (she got the death card). So I thought it would be aptly unappropriate to post what tarot card I was directly after posting what religion I'm closest to. I love the Internet! Maybe the tarot card test was so good it was able to tell that I just semi-recently had a baby, because I got a naked pregnant goddess card. So of course I had to post it!


You are the Empress card. The Empress is the
archetype of the Mother. She creates and
nurtures life. She represents the abundance of
Mother Earth. The Empress is capable of using
nature in a productive way. She espouses art
for art's sake. Her planet is Venus, and she
embodies love of beauty and a strong value
system. Here is also found initial sensation.
This is the first really physical experience of
the world that The Fool has entered. The
Empress has a rich understanding of the world
based on her five senses. In a reading, The
Empress represents pregnancy, actual or
metaphorical. She indicates an act of creation
and a sensual experience of beauty. The Empress
is a nurturing force that wishes to see the
product of her experiences reach the next stage
of development. Image from A Photographic Tarot
http://www.bluewitch.com/healingtarot/healtar.htm
Deck


Which Tarot Card Are You?
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What religion should you be?

I took a test at Belief-O-Matic, and it told me this:

1.	Unitarian Universalism (100%)
2.	Liberal Quakers (98%)
3.	Secular Humanism (89%)
4.	Neo-Pagan (88%)
5.	Mainline to Liberal Christian Protestants (83%)
6.	New Age (83%)
7.	Reform Judaism (77%)
8.	Mahayana Buddhism (70%)
9.	Taoism (67%)
10.	Theravada Buddhism (67%)
11.	Bah�'� Faith (61%)
12.	New Thought (58%)
13.	Sikhism (58%)
14.	Nontheist (56%)
15.	Jainism (55%)
16.	Scientology (51%)
17.	Orthodox Quaker (49%)
18.	Christian Science (Church of Christ, Scientist) (45%)
19.	Hinduism (43%)
20.	Orthodox Judaism (37%)
21.	Islam (30%)
22.	Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormons) (24%)
23.	Mainline to Conservative Christian/Protestant (23%)
24.	Seventh Day Adventist (22%)
25.	Eastern Orthodox (15%)
26.	Roman Catholic (15%)
27.	Jehovah's Witness (11%)

I found it thrilling! I grew up Roman Catholic (of which I agree 15%) and right now I'm Presbyterian, which I don't see at all, but I will assume is the liberal Protestants (83%).

Good Night!

Something lost is found

I found a pathfinder on the Erie Canal that I made when I was at University at Buffalo, getting my MLS, or Masters of Lunkhead Studies for those of you that don't know. Nah, I'm just kidding. Its amazing how life can change you in just a couple of years. In the last five years I have:

(1) graduated from SUNY Geneseo - June 2001
(2) married Jeff Kyle - August 2002
(3) graduated from University at Buffalo - December 2002
(4)bought first home - March 2003
(5) started my first librarian job at Parma Public Library - May 2003
(6) first job goes full-time - August 2003
(7) acting director at Parma - August 2003 (until Sally took over...)
(8) buy first brand new car - November 2003
(9) brought Buster, our first dog, home - June 2004
(10) first child is born - March 2005

Needless to say, I am exhausted. However, as my husband likes to continually remind me, I am not unhappy. In fact, I don't think I've ever been happier in my life.

I just wish that I spent some of the time doing all these great things with friends. I don't really spend time with people other than co-workers, my husband or my child. I know this is going into that danger zone all blogs have to worry about.

BEEP! BEEP!
Danger!Danger! Blogster feeling sorry for herself!
BEEP! BEEP!

Okay, so I am. But, one of the most important things in the whole world for me, besides a loving husband and happy baby are friends. I like to have people to talk to, to hang out with and drink coffee or to do all those stupid things that are silly when you do them alone, but fun if you do with with a couple of other girls. It gets worse because all around me (maybe because I'm looking for it) I see people who have a really tight group of friends, and I get to watch from the sidelines.

I think that a little of this stems from seeing how my parents don't have many friends and they really only spend time with eachother. I think that if something should happen to one of them (if one of them should die) and not the other, it will be ALOT more devistating than if they had a close group of friends. I love Jeff with all my heart, but I would like to have the option of someone else's shoulder to cry on. Please don't get the wrong idea, I do have friends, I'm not a total outcast. But it always feels like there's a distance between us. They don't see the world the way I do. Those people that I think I do see a connection with... we aren't all that close and I don't want to force myself upon them. Then I'd be a total tool. Life can be so very complicated, but its so simple. AIGH!

...On an interesting and sad side note, I know that we decided that we were giving Buster up, but it was still strange to see that he was available on the website. It made the whole thing seem more real and depressing. I think its better for everyone involved that Buster is going to a new home, but I still feel weird and horrible.

If you're thinking about doing something, go do it.

We are all so busy all the time. Life just seems so crazy and we get caught up in so many busy little things, that we never have time for all those things we really want to do or all the really important things that we should do. Take the time to get in touch people that you've lost contact with and been thinking of.
Okay, so I know that I'm rambling, but this all comes from finding out that my choir director passed away. Well, really she was my ex-choir director. She became a lay pastor and joined another church. Then quite suddenly, she found out that she had cancer. The last time I had seen her, she didn't seem sick at all, so while I knew that she was sick, I had no idea how sick she was. I had been meaning for a while to visit her, or write her a letter, something... anything. But, then I found out that thinking and maybes are worth nothing if you don't actually do anything about it. All my good intentions were for naught, because she passed away anyway.
I don't really know what to say, but I guess I should say something about her. She wasn't nearly that old. But I guess most people are ever old enough to die. She had young grandchildren who should have gotten to know her better, but they never will get to know her as well as they should have. She had so many ideas and such creativity. She was caring and wonderful. She had a story (sometimes a little too long, but no one's perfect) to tell about everything and for every situation. She loved music and loved sharing it with everyone. I am so grateful that I have gotten to know her, but I don't think I ever had enough time. Do we ever have enough time? Its at times like these that I think how petty everything is sometimes. We get caught up in the lives of Hollywood stars and need to have every new purse and shoe that comes out. Then something like this happens and BAM everything seems to wrong.

Here's to you Jane. I love you.

Bender, Jane Breitkruz October 1, 2005. She is survived by her husband, Richard A. Bender; daughter, Catherine (Gregory) Zalewski; sister, Martha (Al) Durrell; grandchildren, Alexander, Lukas Zalewski. Friends may call Wednesday 2-3 PM at the Union Presbyterian Church, 1 Browns Ave., Scottsville, 14546. A Funeral Service will be immediately following at 3 pm. In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to Grace Urban Ministries, 860 Dewey Ave., Rochester 14613. Anthony Funeral & Cremation Chapels 2305 Monroe Ave., 244-0770